Tooth Fairy Strikes Again

My youngest son lost his 2nd tooth in three weeks and the tooth fairy comes again with another crisp $5 bill which I am sure he will want to apply either toward Amazon credit for more Kindle Fire apps or possibly toward something else.  The funny thing is we give my son Pizza money for his pre-school every Friday and he insisted on paying with his own tooth fairy money for his Pizza, he wanted it to be out of his money and took pride that he paid for it the other week.  We let him because he had that sense of pride that comes with paying for something yourself even though we told him that he didn’t feel like he had to pay his own money for school lunch.

Both of my kids have good traits when it comes to sharing, my oldest son wanted to treat his best friend to a hot chocolate at school the other morning to return the favor when his friend did the same for him a few weeks ago.  He instinctively wanted to return the favor just because he wanted to and it feels good as a parent to see your kids display positive traits that you can see will stay and last with them growing up.  We always try to instill them to be humble, and share and be kind above all things.  My kids only see equals in everyone, they know no judgment of others.

The biggest key to parenting is that you have to practice what you preach, kids are imitators and they will mirror a parents habit.  If you show compassion, kindness, care and truly show you have respect for people then they will pick up and consider it the norm.   Personality of course plays a factor, but it is much harder to preach (and get it to stick) something that you don’t yourself practice.  I just thank goodness my kids don’t swear at all because they know it’s wrong and I occasionally let a good swear out (okay, more than occasionally).

-Justin Germino

Personal New Years Resolutions

I am going to do a 2 part New Years Resolutions series on my personal blog this time.  Today’s post is all about my personal resolutions for 2012 and what I hope to aspire, achieve and conquer in the upcoming year. My second post tomorrow will be about my blogging goals for 2012 and center around expanding my hobby turned obsession.

Losing a Little Weight

It is not without irony that I like may other people want to aspire to lose a little more weight and tone up more in 2012.  I have gained about 10 pounds over the past 15 months or so and though I am not nearly as heavy as I was back in 2006/2007 I can’t afford to become complacent either.  In the latter part of 2011, I was only going to the Gym 1x per week and doing my home exercise about 1x per week in addition.  In 2012, I am hoping to work out no less than 3-4x per week with 2-3x being at the gym where I have more equipment at my disposal.

Now that I have a new iPod Touch with Spotify, I have more incentive to work out and have great tunes on to assist with the mood.  I really enjoy working out to heavy music and it seems to help relieve stress while working out.

I would like to finally hit my bench mark of being able to do 10 reps of benching 200 pounds.  I was never able to bench more than 180 pounds and even that only a few times.  It shouldn’t be impossible but this is a personal strength goal I am trying to achieve. 

Being a Better Father

I strive to balance a work / home balance and want to make sure I continue to take as much time as possible to enjoy life with the kid while the are the ages they are.  We engage in play activity no less than 1 hour on weekdays and several hours each weekend and I am looking forward to helping my oldest dive into LEGO Mindstorms and play more with my youngest.  I always need to strive for more patience and I hate that I yell more than I should as a parent.

Patience and calm are something I strive for more as a parent, I find that the older my kids get the more frustrated I get with mistakes or behaviors that wouldn’t have bothered me if they did them when they were 3 or 4 years old.  The good thing we don’t believe in physical punishment, never have but I don’t want to be the type of father that is too harsh and leaves psychological scars from scolding them either.

Being a Better Husband

I have made many mistakes over my 15 year relationship with my wife which will make 16 years this may and 13 years marriage this July 4th 2012.  I also need to apply my patience and understanding a little more here in this relationship.   I strive to be a better listener and communicator, I find bad habits I have developed (some say because I am a Libra) where I am always rationalizing, arguing a point or trying to prove one side or another.  It has lead to some of the moments I am not proud of in myself and I will continue to improve as a person.  It is funny how one can lose rationality in the heat of an argument, yet be perfectly logical and choose the right course of actions when not in such a “fight or flight” situation.

Last but not least I continue to strive to be better at my job which is the foundation on which my life is built.  It is my great job and role that provides many of the benefits that allows my family to live our lifestyle which is fairly modest.

These are my personal goals for 2012 and I will continue to work on them.

-Justin Germino

Learning from Mistakes

We all have moments in our lives where we take an action, say or do something and then bitterly regret it or wish we can retract what we have done just a few minutes later (sometimes seconds).  In these instances hopefully there is a chance for not only redemption but to learn and grow from the mistake, remember that mistakes equal experience and our ability as human beings to reshape and alter our behavior and choices based on knowledge from the past gives us the ability to ensure we learn from our mistakes.

In some rare cases the mistake can lead to consequences from which there is no return, think of something as serious as being a drunk driver and accidentally killing a kid or mom because you were inebriated after drinking at a bar and thought you could “make it” home okay.  There are some instances where you should be able to make the right judgement without requiring a previous mistake and once those mistakes are committed you may get redemption and experience but at a horrible price.

One thing that we all should do is reduce “reactionary” responses and take just a few seconds extra to think about the proper reaction or response to a situation, just a few seconds of extra thinking time can make the difference between a good decision and a bad one.   Take a moment to ponder the cause and effect of different decisions and actions to see if you can mentally role play what would be the best scenario or response to a situation.

I am guilty of sometimes reacting too quickly, irrationally and more often than not I have to retract a reaction, respond to it in a different way because I didn’t spend enough time thinking about the cause/effect before reacting.  In my own experiences they are more likely to be things regarding conversations, words used in a sentence or the way I articulated something incorrectly.  I am a far better writer or when I have time to prepare what I want to convey than when I am just conversing sometimes (or in an argument).

“Think before you speak” is a good saying.

-Justin Germino

My New Years Resolution 2010

The year 2009 will not be remembered as one of the better years in my life, having suffered many hardships and personal tragedy’s it is a year that I gladly put behind me. However, it is of the utmost importance that I don’t repeat some of my mistakes that have been made in 2009. My only and truly most important resolution for 2010 is to learn from my past and grow and improve myself as a husband, father and human being overall. We are all human and have our faults, but we are given the gift of being able to recognize mistakes and change our patterns and improve ourselves which separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom.

So I plunge headlong into 2010 with no intention to look back and repeat the past, but to learn from it and to take every single year over the past decade and improve upon it to become the best person that I can be.

Happy New Years, what might your resolutions be if you have any?

-Justin Germino