Comments on: Relationship Advice – Communication And Honesty Are Keys

By: Cashmere

Cashmere — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 22:42:05 +0000

Besides the major points that you stated, I would like to include something... Most people tend to forget that when they are in a relationship with their partner, it's about 2 people and not just one.. It's no longer about themseleves anymore.. Cashmeres last blog post..Happy New Year To Allâ€¦

By: Kim

Kim — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 04:39:42 +0000

Justin, no truer words were ever written. My parents were married for 56 years, until my father died at the age of 75, my mom passed away 5 months after him. My husband's parents have been in a strong marriage for 48 years now. We have both seen our parents' marriages go through rough times, and we've seen them weather the storm and come out stronger on the other side. They set wonderful examples for us. We've had our share of marital problems, to the point of having fantasies of leaving or even (metaphorically) killing the other. But we cool down, work it out, discuss and be honest and realize the "assumptions" we made were wrong. Our relationship is always stronger afterwords, and our children learn from this process as well, just as we learned from our parents. By building a strong marriage, we're building strong children with strong self esteem and good negotiation, compromise and listening skills, not to mention a strong sense of humor. That in my opinion can get you through most anything. Yes, marriage, just as life in general, is work, and it's well worth the effort. I know too many serial marriage people and I just don't get why you'd want to run yourself through 3, 4 or 5 marriages. This isn't a highschool relationship. This is marriage. It's a priceless union and to be taken seriously. Kims last blog post..Busy Weekend

By: Kara

Kara — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 02:32:37 +0000

I enjoyed your post, although I would say that people do change. No matter how much you know someone before you get married or after, life changes you through your experiences. Saying your sorry, laughing, and learning new things together are blessings and "should" be thought of as a gift to one another and to ourselves. We've been through an affair. Now our marriage is better than either of us could have ever expected it could be! Thanks for the great post! Karas last blog post..A Prayer

By: Karen & Gerard Zemek

Karen & Gerard Zemek — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 17:39:06 +0000

Very good post about how important communication is. I like that you pointed out lying is never right too. Spouses need to be totally honest with one another, and the more transparent, generally the stronger the trust between them becomes. "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace addresses this issue. I'm reading it now so it is fresh on my mind. Karen & Gerard Zemeks last blog post..My Favorite Posts From 2008

By: Bingkee

Bingkee — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 16:40:22 +0000

So true ….and also it’s best to know when to shut up. Communication is very important in marriage but I learned that not all problems can be solved by expressing everything. There are some things that when I know my husband is right, I shut up. Or when I do wrong, I ask sorry. He also does the same way. We communicate so well but he also shut up when he knows I am right and asks sorry if he is wrong. Thanks for sharing this.

By: Gebadia Smith

Gebadia Smith — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 06:56:49 +0000

Come on now..marriage is too often about money. You always see those short pudgy, upper middle class men with the hot wives...but lets say it is about love...then your right communication is key..and that means being able to talk about the hard stuff...I would also argue that it is harder to find the ever after now because people tend to change more than ever before... Gebadia Smiths last blog post..I want a dam medal