Comments on: My View Of Consensual Infidelity http://www.justingermino.com/my-view-of-consensual-infidelity/ Personal Blog of Justin Germino Fri, 19 Mar 2010 19:08:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: dragonblogger http://www.justingermino.com/my-view-of-consensual-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-210 dragonblogger Tue, 25 Nov 2008 20:39:25 +0000 http://www.justingermino.com/?p=228#comment-210 I agree with your comments @Davida, that people who are open and honest and want to experiment or go into a relationship with their intentions clear are at least true to themselves and their partners. Cheating, Lying and hiding are acts of betrayal. I agree with your comments @Davida, that people who are open and honest and want to experiment or go into a relationship with their intentions clear are at least true to themselves and their partners. Cheating, Lying and hiding are acts of betrayal.

]]> By: Davida http://www.justingermino.com/my-view-of-consensual-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-209 Davida Tue, 25 Nov 2008 18:37:41 +0000 http://www.justingermino.com/?p=228#comment-209 During my mid-twenties I toyed with the idea of "swinging" and the concept that monogamy may be against nature. I wondered if this seemingly society-imposed restriction of sexual fidelity sets us up for failure. I later realized that monogamy and fidelity depended on: 1. the dynamics of the relationship (which must include selflessness, love, respect, and trust), 2. the spiritual foundation (even if one could reason through extramarital activities, is this really the thing you want to be held accountable for when you meet your Creator?), 3. how profound the love connection is (sex should be held as an intimate act that is a physical expression of the love you already feel for each other), and 4. one's own desire to fulfill the desires of his or her partner exclusively (both need to be willing to do whatever it takes to remain faithful to each other). Thankfully, I came to see open relationships as selfish and animalistic...when we are not animals, but people, capable of loving and sharing on a higher level. I know of people who practice or have practiced open marriages. It may work for a while BUT eventually, the relationship will fail because the foundation is flawed. I will say this--Even though I now don't agree with this lifestyle, I can appreciate the openness and honesty that swingers share as opposed to liars and cheaters who go behind their partners' backs. That's just despicable. Davida During my mid-twenties I toyed with the idea of “swinging” and the concept that monogamy may be against nature. I wondered if this seemingly society-imposed restriction of sexual fidelity sets us up for failure.

I later realized that monogamy and fidelity depended on:
1. the dynamics of the relationship (which must include selflessness, love, respect, and trust),
2. the spiritual foundation (even if one could reason through extramarital activities, is this really the thing you want to be held accountable for when you meet your Creator?),
3. how profound the love connection is (sex should be held as an intimate act that is a physical expression of the love you already feel for each other), and
4. one’s own desire to fulfill the desires of his or her partner exclusively (both need to be willing to do whatever it takes to remain faithful to each other).

Thankfully, I came to see open relationships as selfish and animalistic…when we are not animals, but people, capable of loving and sharing on a higher level. I know of people who practice or have practiced open marriages. It may work for a while BUT eventually, the relationship will fail because the foundation is flawed.

I will say this–Even though I now don’t agree with this lifestyle, I can appreciate the openness and honesty that swingers share as opposed to liars and cheaters who go behind their partners’ backs. That’s just despicable.

Davida

]]> By: Damien http://www.justingermino.com/my-view-of-consensual-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-208 Damien Tue, 25 Nov 2008 15:25:42 +0000 http://www.justingermino.com/?p=228#comment-208 Very well put. Let's be honest, it's possible to "get caught lookin'" but there's a big difference between a bird flying over ones head and letting it make a nest ;) When ya gettin GTalk? Very well put. Let’s be honest, it’s possible to “get caught lookin’” but there’s a big difference between a bird flying over ones head and letting it make a nest ;)

When ya gettin GTalk?

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